how to forgive someone who had hurt you deeply before

Yesterday, i received a friend request on facebook from someone i have not thought of for many years. She was one of the few people whom i never really want to meet again or even remember.

What's the story behind this?

She, with two other girls, used to be my best friends in primary school. Ironically, all three of them were the ones who backstabbed me and even formed a gang to bully me. You may call me childish or petty, for holding such a grudge for close to a decade. But being mocked at and bullied in front of other people, was no easy thing to forget either.

So when i saw her name under "friend request" last night, my first reaction was: i was amazed that she had the cheek to add me as a "friend".

I do see the other two girls in nus at times. The look of recognition on their faces was pretty obvious when i bumped into them. But for me, i just pretended i have never ever met them before.

Hatred is not the exact feeling i have for them now. But thinking about them doesn't give me a pleasant feeling. I don't expect an apology or a hi from them. But i can't imagine myself smiling and pretending that nothing has happened between us right now.

Facebook is useful in a way that it connect us with all our friends, including long-lost ones. But last night, it had dug up unwanted memories from the back of my head.

So yup, that friend request is still left unaccepted.